Be Me!

I would like to share with you my learning & life changing experience i had last week.  Attached is some words of wisdom that I took & that are very special to me & would like to share with you "Remember be noticed, feel great, feel loved, be wonderful most importantly BE yourself (me!)"

So as most of you know I stepped up to the plate by advancing my skills in life coaching a goal that I had set  & now have achieved it truly is a wonderful feeling reaching your GOAL! Below is how the week went so enjoy........

Day 1 b the student- so I walked into the room with my student hat on which to me meant absorb everything, learn new skills, & ask questions if you are not sure. Did become student? Yes but only to a degree looking back now I walked in with the wrong hat on but you will find out later as to why.

Day 2 the sink in- the student is still present & the skills were starting to sink in, but something was missing in the room I had taken everything on but not allowing myself (Bee) to enter the room  until.......

Day 3 the demo- The student on this day was left out the door & the time was right to now bring in Bee. This is when the pivotal change occurred I volunteered for a demo for one of the techniques we were learning. It was to change a habit I had that I disliked my mind was opened the key to the door was unlocked this day is we're the REAL journey begun.

Day 5 realisation- a couple of days passed learning was still happening but Bee was completely in the room the student was left way at home & don't forget the key to something in my mind was opened but did not know what it was before today. Leaving day 5 I caught the train home had some self thoughts "Was I good enough to do this was this all over my head I am really that confident? Bingo day 5 realisation!

Day 6 & 7 the rest is history- from day 5 onwards the mind gate was totally wide opened the last few days I became not only the student or bee but something that was bigger than myself. I have never learnt so much about myself it was just an experience that I will never forget.

Looking back on the week it taught me that when you jump into the unknown, new chapter, or taking a new path in life it is not just about being the student or learning something new it is also about bringing yourself above & beyond the barrier. I could sit here & go on & on & on about last week but some moments & experiences should be kept within. One thing I will lastly mention is the people I meet last week they are what made the week unforgettable they were just people when I first walked into the room but now they are a person to me friends were made & moments shared to you that were in the room with me Thank you for being you & allowing me to be me!

So now this week I have been using the new tools that I have learnt & have become a part of me & wow what a hell of a week totally awesome the journey has totally begun & is already fun!

Till next time

Bee
xxx
A practitioner in NLP & Matrix Therapies your Coach your Goal
www.goals2breached.com.au

IT IS A ....................

IT IS A.............................. ! So I choose theme of the week Birth & Pregnancy that actually ran for two weeks it was a trip down memory lane the special moments, how my two little babies are not babies now, the feelings I felt, how big my boobs got, & now when I think about it even the dark side's of pregnancy. I was like a Jackal & Hyde so I don't think I miss being pregnant. those births moments i would have over & over & over again but each to their own as I always say I am sure some would have it the other way around or not at all.

The one thing that totally intrigues me about Pregnancy & Birth is the whole creation idea for the life of me I could not fathom with the fact that there was actually a "human" inside, a person that both my hubby & I created (whilst intoxicated when I look back on it whoops!) that all started from what you call sperm CRAZY.

Once that CRAZY moment happens the 9 months (felt like 12 to me but anyway!) of planning, preparing, naturing, & everything else that goes with the feeling of fat, ugly, & tired ends up at a finishing line( fingers crossed if it does get there totally utterly blessed) the next part the best part birth. It is the time to see what have you & your partner created? Is it a boy or girl, what will there hands look like, what colour eyes will it have, hair will it be black?

Creation is a wonderful thing but not only has it got to be through birth or pregnancy, I believe we ALL can CREATE something in our life.Feelings may differ slightly but if it feels right to you who cares. The feelings one has when they have created something is liberating, exciting,accomplishment
& a sense of pride that something that was not their before is now due to you making it come to exsistence.

So taking this into consideration I gave birth again this week. I along side with someone else created a WEBSITE!
Now with this website I have to nature it, make it grow, & support it. One thing I do know is that it I am sure I have more control & it will listen to other than my two other creations LOL! but this website is my new baby it was planned, processed & produced CREATION was made! I hope that this website can talk, change & make other people feel wonderful, I am sure it will go through milestones with ups & downs but as the creator I hope to be there every step of the way.

So the same or not the same? to some they may not agree but for me I created something so yeh I gave birth to a website this week. It was not a human but it was some form of creation for I felt a sense of accomplishment! Remember word CREATION means:

"The action or process of bringing something into existence!"

So what U have U created today?

Bx

P.S below is a link to the creation sorry I guess you can say I am bragging about my 1 week old website

www.goals2breached.com.au

U GOT A FRIEND?

This weeks theme is about FRIENDS & I am just so pumped for this theme! I was honoured to be a maid of honour on the weekend for a very special long time bestie, the moments we shared before the day, on the day & the day after are ones we will both never forget. It not only made me realise how lucky I am to have her in my life but to realise how lucky I am to have experienced what FRIENDSHIP is all about. So it got me thinking about how I have chosen my friends, who my friends are & why they have been so important in my life.

Why do we have FRIENDS? 
As the good ol funny saying goes "You can't choose your family but you can choose your friends" plays a huge part we need other influences in our lives to help make us who we are & to create those special moments however we are blessed that we are able to choose WHO those people are & HOW they play a part in our life when it comes to our FRIENDS.

Who's Bee's mates?
In my family network I am only child (I do have half brothers & a sister but they were a plane trip away so for me I flew solo). To me friends played a massive part in my life in the past, present & hopefully future WHY? Well I asked the question this week of "Quality vs Quantity" of friends everyone stated Quality totally agree however I think I am going to say I like the best of both worlds I have always had lots of Quantity of friends on one hand quality but that does not matter they are friends that I know if anything was to happen to myself or family they would be some form of a support network.  When I was younger like all of us Quantity played more of an important value maybe to make me feel accepted or liked, but as age is creeping on me Quality does win the race.
My friends are unique special they love me for all the urks, quirks, loud mouthed, crazy stuff I do & along the way I may have changed but those that have stuck around are my QUALITY friends.

So what is a QUALITY friend? 
That is up to you everyone has different values, morals & beliefs a quality friend is one that does not necessarily have to agree with all those things but will just LOVE you for who are. Remember life, stages & people change so if a FRIENDSHIP changes due to this that is OK sad but it can happen but if you can talk it out (weather that goes smooth or not as long as you talk) & see each other on the other side that is all that matters that the FRIENDSHIP is still there you learn about your new friend & LOVE THEM for who they are!

What FRIEND r U?
It is well & good telling your mates, chick buds, besties what ever you call your friends how much they mean to you, what they do for you, or how they make you feel but sometimes we can loose ourselves on the other person. Sometimes when you can STOP & ASK yourself "What friend Am I?" are you a quality friend to that other person, what can you do that is special for your friend, when did you last pick up the phone & ask how your friend is going? Is there any room for improving yourself as a friend? If so what needs to be improved? don't wait for the chance for a "b" fight or an awkward moment with your mate just be aware on yourself just as much as them. Great relationships work due to being a two way street not only in love marriage relationships but ALL relationships especially mates.

Friends do come, go, swap, change, are either old & new it just another magical relationship we have in our life if we choose to, if you don't have that special mate in your life try to change it or create it cause you are totally missing out on something special!

Love B

P.S this blog is a shout out to all my Quantity & Quality of Mates you all know who you are in my life & it would not be complete without you in it! 

Make the CHANGE

You know that heavy feeling that either lies on your chest or on your shoulders? Weather the heaviness is from stress, pressure, or something that is just not feeling right? All along that voice in your head is SCREAMING CHANGE!!! Something at sometime has gotta give, be sacrificed or let go off so that means CHANGE!

This first paragraph I am sure is close to home for all of us including myself that is why I find CHANGE the theme of the week a couple of weeks so important. CHANGE is growing, being open, fearless & creating a better version of U! We upgrade our phones, cars & sometimes houses to either have bigger, better or to accommodate the situation to improve our life's so why should the inner self change be any different?

From experience I  hope to shed light as to why some of us don't tend to CHANGE or find CHANGE weird, strange or totally frightening.

We all come from somewhere & of course from someone we get brought into the world surround by some form of family network that is our nest for at least 15-25 years. Within in this time beliefs, values & morals are exposed weather they are right or wrong is not the point what is the point is it ends up making us WHO we are.

Then when we fly the coup and venture the big wide world it shapes what choices we make that ends up shaping our futures. All that is totally cool but what happens to those that hit a point were we start to think AM I HAPPY with WHO I am? Well you know those feelings I spoke about at the beginning they  start to linger, get stronger & for most set in, what ends up happening is we stay the same, cocoon ourselves in what is called our COMFORT ZONE!

Why not break through the COMFORT ZONE I did?

HOW?

TRY something new, DO something different, BE a new U! 

Dump your baggage or erks & perks at yesterday's door step, then open the door at tomorrows NEW CHANGE! Most think it is hard but it is just opening the door to yourself, admiring what needs to change & letting go to  MAKE THE CHANGE but most of all BE the change!

So what door are you opening tomorrow?

It's all about "ME"

So this week's theme really hits home for "ME" & I am sure most of us so I really hope this blog makes you totally agree, understand, appreciate or inspire?

I have always been a people pleaser, worried about what others thought of "ME", tried to always put my family first then the roll on affect was that "ME" would come last.

Examples of this are hiding behind others achievements, never giving a time out card for myself, putting my health last (I only had a pap smear this year after 4.5 years BAD I know!), not doing any form of exercise for at least 4 years the list can go on but I am not going to cry poor "ME"that is not want I am trying to achieve here at all.

My point is that whilst loosing "ME" looking back I was not in my best form for all aspects of my life. Narky wife, mean mum, short fused daughter, & I am sure that the people that are most dear in my life would add extra comments LOL (don't blame them). I became one eyed I only focused on what I was NOT doing instead of DOING something about it.

CHANGE needed to happen so I jumped two feet first in looking at "ME" who I was, what was I doing, where my passion lies, whilst trying to find all that I realised that it was TIME! I was not giving "ME" time i just kept adding pressure to be better but in actual fact I just needed TIME! The one eye was wide open I would say "but I don't have time!" two kid's, hubbie, business, house, social life, etc etc etc then I thought WAIT everyone has the same stuff everyone is busy these days so what needed to really change?

The answer was not who or what was around "ME" the only thing that had to change was "ME!"

So I came across a saying & I always use it now "TO HAVE TIME YOU HAVE TO MAKE TIME!" that was it that was the answer stop putting the pressure on "ME" and take out the time for "ME" I did and I still DO!

I exercise, I do my health checks, I read a Mag, I give myself a night off and do date night with hubbie & I leave washing piled up for a few days! I now feel that if I had to exit this crazy world we live in quiet quickly I would leave relaxed, happy, and not LOST with "ME" I guess when I am gone someone else can do the washing LOL!

So a shout out to those that do not MAKE (not have remember) "ME" time STOP making excuses just MAKE the time. Remember "ME" time is not something that you have to do 24/7 it can be 1 hour a week whatever as long as there is M & E in it and you doing what you makes you feel happy, lighter & relaxed try it you may even get addicted!

Bx

I AM Moved! I AM Motivated!

The way we act, choose paths or get to our end results is what MOTIVATES you,me and everyone around us. We all have personal motivators some we have in common with loved ones but usually what motivates us is very close to the heart.

There is no wrong or right Motivators or even how many or even If they change as long you get to your end result. I started to think about what really motivates others, me & why. It was great that a few shared what motivates them; inspirational family, partners, having balance& just being grateful for being alive! They are big movers the most common for all but some have unquie Motivators one answer I got was "doing or having something new in my life" so for sharing I am going to share what motivates Bee,

New People- I only discovered this since I have started Goals 2B Reached as most of you know I love being around people but most of all I get so motivated when I meet someone new. Especially when they share stories of their life, were they come from or who they are it really Motivates me to appreciate other people's situations & in return appreciate my own. Motivation is a huge thing for me I love the feeling of motivation & not just for me but for others immensely.

Motivating others can be done without you even knowing just being yourself,setting an example of your belief is just what people get motivated by. Just remember other peoples motivations are not always the same as your own they are special to them and there is no wrong or right motivator. If you do move someone else hold on to it in your heart for that is special not everyday that happens and if you are motivated by someone tell them share it they deserve to know.

What if you have not felt motivated, or have but forgot what motivated you? STOP & Revaluate is the answer what used to motivate you may have changed that is totally OK! Look were you are and around you WHAT is it that makes your heart "tick", moves you, makes you want to get up and take on the world! Look at WHO surrounds you makes you feel good as we have seen people are the majority of people's great Motivators. If it is not people is it Music? Career? Money? Travel? Anything?
Once you have worked out WHAT & WHO ask yourself WHY? Why do these things move me the answers will shed light. If you are still not sure that is way cool still give it a go live and learn as I mentioned and will keep saying there is no wrong or right and you can have as many motivators as you want and change them as many times as you want as long as it MOTIVATES you!

Motivation "The reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way.
The general desire or willingness of someone to do something."

Guilt Gut

Ever had the feeling of Guilt Gut? You know that feeling of your stomach tossing, turning & feels empty but you want to be sick like you have had to much baked dinner?

Well I think I ate the whole leg of lamb at the moment sitting here about to board a plane whilst leaving my right arm behind (that means my Hubbie & two Vegemite's) to embark on a trip that has been organised for quiet some time.

Everyone keeps saying "don't feel guilty" and I know I should not but it just shows how strong the brain can tell the other part of the body that you feel guilty (that part of my body being my gut). So what is GUILT?

Guilt "The fact or state of having committed an offence, crime, violation, or wrong" WOW Crime? Offence? Violation? Heavy words totally has my brain thinking I am not committing any of these so why do I feel this way?

Easy we all have been guilty of Gut Guilt weather you are a mother, father, sister, brother, we all have had it and if you have not experienced it that is way cool and must mean confidence above and beyond.
The main reason we feel Gut Guilt (majority of us) is when we

PUT OUR SELF FIRST- We always strive to make those around us happy, comfortable, or whatever the feeling maybe but as long as that other person is feeling it and not you. But what about that good ol saying "you have to learn to love yourself before you love anyone else" the whole thing putting your self first has also a bad stigma of "selfishness" that if you do put yourself first that instead of thinking your loving yourself you are being selfish. Maybe that is why I have Gut Guilt?

So I have written 5 positive selfless reasons as to why I am going on a little trip to make me feel that what I am doing is setting a bar for myself and my family. So a shout out to all those that ever get GUILT GUT mind over matter and write positive reasons why you are putting yourself first.

So I am about to board and I am leaving my Gut Guilt at the gate! I love you my right arm and miss you already


Bx

Shutting & Opening the door

Letting Go of something that has played such an important & influential part in your life is an  amazing experience in ones life. The emotions you feel are confusing at times you are sad to see it go but at the same time excited why? Well when you think about when you are shutting one door that means closure for some not an easy task to an emotional one to do but  remember you are in theory opening another door no door shuts without another one opening. The room may not be the same as the other one but is that not what makes the change exciting?

Why am I blogging about this well this week is one of letting go of SureSearch. This week is my last week playing a part of this company. For those of you who know me and SureSearch you will understand that this is a HUGE step for me to take.

For those who do not know to put it simply this is a Business that I have lived and breathed with my Husband for 5 years. When my first child Kayla was 8 months of age my husband, managing director, father of one daughter turned and said "I need your help" so apprehensively I put my little Kayla who mind you had a hip brace on at the time into care for a couple of days a week to assit with this business I knew nothing about called "SureSearch" This turned into a couple of days, to a full week to then becoming so involved that I knew everything about "SureSearch"

As time passed and went quickly to add it got to a point were Hubbie, MD, Dad done an expectational job to turn this business into one of success now I can proudly say we did it together. There has been awesome highs like obtaining a first major truck equipment, winning our first major contract, employing extra staff and there is some been some lows normal business roller coaster rides. I have special memorable moments within this business being pregnant through this time with my second sitting at my desk and watching the kicks hit the table from my stomach to working right up to the day I was due to be induced it has just been so apart of my life.

During this time I have been so blessed to work with some amazing people that have made my life extra special and even taught me a few things about myself that I did not know. Some have even become family. The journey I have shared with these people has been one I will not forget I work with family, friends and made friends a long the way that is probably why I am so passionate about "SureSearch" is because of the people. Also to Hubbie, MD, and father of my child what a challenge a shout out to those that work with there loved ones it is do able but a challenge that I wish to let go of now.  No more MD just my husband now which is awesome! It has been like planting a seed and Glen and I watering it and watching it grow into something that is still alive and still grows makes you proud it has been like having another child hence why I it is a HUGE thing myself.

SO here it is final week of SureSearch I let you go and now spread my wings you have been my comfort zone, my learning curve  but now I am ready to shut the door and walk into the next room of my life!

So remember to those that are thinking or about to a shut door it is a roller coaster but the experience is amazing and you will never forget that room that room is just apart of your house it may reopen again it may stay locked. But living in a one bedroom house is not as fun.

Fresh Start

So the theme is Friday Fresh for myself and a relationship. A special someone asked me today "can we start over and have a Fresh Start?"  For the sentence to be even said must of taken a toll on that other person and the relationship to get to that point.

When someone says Fresh it means to me clean, new & alive which in return is all positive and exciting for the both parties. "Start" well that can mean so many things to each individual one may think  "I am going to start from now" or the other person could think "I will start that next week" The word start means "to begin or set out, as on a journey or activity"  no where in there does it say "when" hence why it can be such a grey area. A journey or activity why would I or anyone wait to make up the time to start when you have NOW!

This special someone has asked us to have a second chance, an opportunity to join together on a new journey that is going to begin from  when not sure yet but Some people do not even consider jumping on the journey, why?

Belief- They may not believe the other person can start over or even YOU may not believe in yourself to start over
Disappointment- something that no one wants to ever feel so we avoid to feel this way

I would be totally lying if I said I do not feel any of this at the moment I do trust me I feel them inside and out but is it worth loosing that relationship in my life because of two things that will at the end of day reflect on me? No not worth it especially when it is the other person dug deep and was brave enough to ask for the "fresh start" wish I asked for it first HA!

If a relationship which is a connection of two people could be mother & daughter, lovers, bother & sister , two best mates any relationship at all that has lost it's way by getting to a point were you are both unhappy, have anger towards each other, can not see eye to eye, fight all the time or even lost touch with each other why don't you have a "Fresh Start" why don't you be the one to  say it first and say "Can we start over, let's have a fresh start but starting from this minute on" I doubt that the person will say no and if they do well you know were you stand and that other person could be just feeling those two that I mentioned their belief and disappointment but in time they will come around I am sure!

All I can say is the me being the person on the other side being asked I feel privileged and honoured that someone still wants that Fresh Start with me some people can be told "Stop this relationship is over" so I am excited about my Fresh Start with that special someone in my life starting from NOW.

To that person that asked me for a "Fresh Start" thank you for giving me the chance I really look forward to the journey with you

Bx

I DID IT!

Hi, my name is bee wakelin first time blogger 

I will be honest this blogging world is totally new to me the above sounds like I am standing in a room full of people confessing! I have never done a blog, never written one, I am terrible speller, was in the lowest English class in high school so to give it to you straight I am way out of my comfort zone SCARY!!!!


Seeing's I am new to this world of Blog that I have joined I thought I would do some research on blogging? Bad move it created a flood of fears. How? read on and you will discover the truth.........


First Fear- I am so totally LOST? What the hell you are you thinking Bee did you know As of the 16th of February 2011 there is 156 million public blogs in existence. so I am sure that I am maybe the 200th + Million people to be doing this! But then I guess the saying goes "if you can't beat them join them " Maybe that is why I felt out of my comfort zone 156 million is an amazing number and here I am little Bee making up one little blog to add to that million WoW makes me feel like an Ant. Hang on an ant  that is pretty awesome now that I think of it I feel like I am apart of the colony, a little team member making a difference to hopefully others and also myself  huh not bad really. So LOST has really got to change I am not lost I am actually FOUND,  first fear gone! 


Then my next emotion to hit me was SELF DOUBT- Was I opening up a can worms on myself? what if people think I am silly for doing a blog? what about what people think about my blog? what if everyone hates my blog? So I looked up what is a blog? what does it mean? From what I can compile and what a blog means to mwa is the following; "Me (the blogger) exposing my inner thoughts on the world wide web and allowing followers (hopefully I get some!) to get to know Bee Wakelin who I am, who is in my world, how my world is and how I make it change and  hopefully in return I learn about other peoples thoughts and there world" so really I guess it makes me feel naked on the web hey being naked is meant to be liberating so this Blogging might be fun and not that bad so maybe followers can join me and feel naked to. Second fear slammed!


My final thought (for now I am sure more to follow) was fearing in getting this Blog WRONG and if that happens does that make me FAILURE?-  In the past I have read and followed other peoples blogs and thought "How awesome are these people, they must be so smart and proud of themselves!" but then I had to take a good look at myself what was I thinking WRONG & FAIL? no way how can that happen there is no RIGHT or WRONG in sharing your thoughts so what if it is not going to be grammatically correct I did not know thoughts were graded. FAILURE why does that even matter I would have felt failure had I not done this and pushed out of my comfort zone so I have already had one step to being a winner and failure is not what others think just what I might think of myself and hey I feel like a winner already so yeh third fear go take a hike! 


I am sure more emotions will come as time goes by but you know what I think they will go quicker than come. I know I have done the best thing I have put my self out there put my "fears" aside and that is what it is all about. Trying something out of our comfort zone, seeing what other wonderful potentials that we have on the inside and it is not about getting them Right or Wrong it is about just giving it a go.


Setting personal goals to ourselves is making your life a "rolling stone that gathers no moss" (thanks hubbie Glen is his favourite quote)  and put it together with Nike multi million dollar quote "Just do it!" and you have hit gold to your Goal!


So future followers my name is Bee Wakelin and I am a first time blogger and proud of it and can not wait to my next one and that is one of my goals started, created and ticked  off feels good. 


BX