Make the CHANGE

You know that heavy feeling that either lies on your chest or on your shoulders? Weather the heaviness is from stress, pressure, or something that is just not feeling right? All along that voice in your head is SCREAMING CHANGE!!! Something at sometime has gotta give, be sacrificed or let go off so that means CHANGE!

This first paragraph I am sure is close to home for all of us including myself that is why I find CHANGE the theme of the week a couple of weeks so important. CHANGE is growing, being open, fearless & creating a better version of U! We upgrade our phones, cars & sometimes houses to either have bigger, better or to accommodate the situation to improve our life's so why should the inner self change be any different?

From experience I  hope to shed light as to why some of us don't tend to CHANGE or find CHANGE weird, strange or totally frightening.

We all come from somewhere & of course from someone we get brought into the world surround by some form of family network that is our nest for at least 15-25 years. Within in this time beliefs, values & morals are exposed weather they are right or wrong is not the point what is the point is it ends up making us WHO we are.

Then when we fly the coup and venture the big wide world it shapes what choices we make that ends up shaping our futures. All that is totally cool but what happens to those that hit a point were we start to think AM I HAPPY with WHO I am? Well you know those feelings I spoke about at the beginning they  start to linger, get stronger & for most set in, what ends up happening is we stay the same, cocoon ourselves in what is called our COMFORT ZONE!

Why not break through the COMFORT ZONE I did?

HOW?

TRY something new, DO something different, BE a new U! 

Dump your baggage or erks & perks at yesterday's door step, then open the door at tomorrows NEW CHANGE! Most think it is hard but it is just opening the door to yourself, admiring what needs to change & letting go to  MAKE THE CHANGE but most of all BE the change!

So what door are you opening tomorrow?

It's all about "ME"

So this week's theme really hits home for "ME" & I am sure most of us so I really hope this blog makes you totally agree, understand, appreciate or inspire?

I have always been a people pleaser, worried about what others thought of "ME", tried to always put my family first then the roll on affect was that "ME" would come last.

Examples of this are hiding behind others achievements, never giving a time out card for myself, putting my health last (I only had a pap smear this year after 4.5 years BAD I know!), not doing any form of exercise for at least 4 years the list can go on but I am not going to cry poor "ME"that is not want I am trying to achieve here at all.

My point is that whilst loosing "ME" looking back I was not in my best form for all aspects of my life. Narky wife, mean mum, short fused daughter, & I am sure that the people that are most dear in my life would add extra comments LOL (don't blame them). I became one eyed I only focused on what I was NOT doing instead of DOING something about it.

CHANGE needed to happen so I jumped two feet first in looking at "ME" who I was, what was I doing, where my passion lies, whilst trying to find all that I realised that it was TIME! I was not giving "ME" time i just kept adding pressure to be better but in actual fact I just needed TIME! The one eye was wide open I would say "but I don't have time!" two kid's, hubbie, business, house, social life, etc etc etc then I thought WAIT everyone has the same stuff everyone is busy these days so what needed to really change?

The answer was not who or what was around "ME" the only thing that had to change was "ME!"

So I came across a saying & I always use it now "TO HAVE TIME YOU HAVE TO MAKE TIME!" that was it that was the answer stop putting the pressure on "ME" and take out the time for "ME" I did and I still DO!

I exercise, I do my health checks, I read a Mag, I give myself a night off and do date night with hubbie & I leave washing piled up for a few days! I now feel that if I had to exit this crazy world we live in quiet quickly I would leave relaxed, happy, and not LOST with "ME" I guess when I am gone someone else can do the washing LOL!

So a shout out to those that do not MAKE (not have remember) "ME" time STOP making excuses just MAKE the time. Remember "ME" time is not something that you have to do 24/7 it can be 1 hour a week whatever as long as there is M & E in it and you doing what you makes you feel happy, lighter & relaxed try it you may even get addicted!

Bx